Avoiding the "CREEPER" label

Ever since I started college, I noticed that the word "creeper" is thrown around a lot. Many of my guy friends think that girls label guys creepers too quickly. I admit that I have labeled guys creepers before I got to know them but I think some instances are label worthy. Ie. A guy jump attacking towards me in attempt to dance with me, whipping his arms and head every which way making my reflexes respond by running away. This was a true story. I honestly felt like he was going to hurt me. If my instincts are to run away then it cant be good.

Creepers at a party:

Scoping: Even though you are scanning the room for a cute girl or a girl you could actually have a chance with, please don’t make it so damn obvious. Just because you stay in one spot scanning the room doesn’t mean that people in the room cant see your bug eyes searching. And please, PLEASE don’t walk around to get a better look, especially in a dark dance room. It is SO obvious. You are not that slick.

Dancing: Want to dance with a girl? Dance near her and if she looks over and smiles or signals you in some way, then go for it or ask if she wants to dance. But don’t scheme and circle her like a vulture (had it happened to me). Even if those circles are big, you are not invisible, we can still see you.

Take a hint: if we reject you, don’t try dancing with her again. We may not remember you the next day on Facebook but we will remember you a few minutes later when you attempt another hip thrusting move on us as we label you a creeper. And yes, grabbing another girl and shimmying her way away from you is a subtle way of rejecting you, not an invitation for you to dance with both of them.

Girl hopping: I don’t know about you, but after being rejected by two of the girls in a group, if I was a guy, I would give up. This one time, this short sweaty, musty guy with a bright orange tshirt and HUGE voluminous hair attempted to dance with me and the 4 other friends I was with- within the span of 10 minutes. He hopped from girl to girl as we did our shimmying move over and over until we finally were fed up and moved. Lets say he didn’t take the hint and we saw a flash of orange a few minutes later….

Closet creepers:

Facebook friend requests: just because we danced with you does not mean we remember you. I know that sounds even borderline hoochie to not know who you danced with but sometimes it just happens. So unless you actually had a legitimate conversation where you exchanged more than "What's your name" , "Do you want a drink/to dance" don’t be so eager to click the REQUEST FRIEND button.

Facebook stalking: although this isn't as obvious to the person you are "creeping" on, it is still just… ugh. This act can be committed by both males and females but to continue the theme of this article, we'll talk about the guys...

I have had one of my guy friends come into my room, without even a hello first, asking "YOU KNOW [insert cute girl's name]!? Can I see her Facebook pictures?" or when I went to visit this same guy friend's room to see him looking at a cute girl's Facebook. "Oh she's cute, who is she?"

His response? "I don’t know but she's cute" as I witnessed him looking at her profile for another 20 minutes.

Picture creepers:

I came across this blog, and I thought it was hilarious because I think everyone has pictures with funny things going on in the background. But what made me laugh was a certain person I know who does this on purpose. On the dance floor, he sees a flash in the making, and then stops dancing to pose. Confused, I asked what he was doing and he points to the group of people taking pictures. He repositions himself to be in a better range of the photo and crosses his arms with a thuggish face. He is such a quirky friend that is pretty good looking so I wonder if those girls look at that picture and label him a creeper (most likely).

So I guess that made me realize that I throw that word around too much lately. This guy is such a sweet guy who walks his friends back to their dorms to make sure they make it back ok, offers the cloths off his back to shivering friends, never gets belligerently drunk and seems to still have a good time but still keeps a watchful eye on his friends, guys and girls alike. But his creeper photo shoot does not do this sweet guy justice. Maybe the picture creepers should be crossed out at least.